Intimacy and Marriage: Keeping the Love Alive

We have been talking a lot in our household about intimacy, marriage and growing apart since the Gore’s announced their separation.

One of the things that we agree on is that we need to focus a lot on the nearly 40 years of Al and Tipper Gore’s good marriage as well as the dignified way that they seem to be ending this relationship.

It takes a lot of work and energy to maintain a healthy relationship through the stresses and trials that the Gore’s experienced.  They survived serious challenges as parents, a couple and individuals and always handled them with dignity and grace.

Growing apart can be easy in any marriage.  It can happen in even the best of them.  When projects, careers and children demand attention … or seduce partners, it is hard to keep the thread of intimacy alive and vital.

Here are just 3 of our suggestions to maintain connection and intimacy, even in the busiest of times.

• Spend 20 minutes each day catching up on what has happened in each other’s lives.  Make sure that your knowledge of your partner and his or her life is current, up-to-date.
• Share affirmations and positive feelings every day.  Make sure to say “I love you” and talk about what you most appreciate about your spouse that day.
• Keep physical touch, sexual connection and romance alive on a regular basis.  You will lose it if you do not use it.

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Three Ways To Love Your Lover

1.  Flirt. Flirting is a great way to help your lover feel attractive and desired.  It also helps the “flirter” to keep the spark alive.

2.  Touch. Physical affection and touch is a great way to indicate caring.  Most men and women respond well to loving touch.

3.  Tell your lover things that you like or admire about him or her. Sincere and specific comments keep the good things about your relationship alive and in your own mind as well as “your sweetie’s” mind.

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